Marriage- A turning point in Life

Despite busy celebrating Chinese New Year, there were double happines happening in my family. The new born Baby Zander, little nephew of mine, and newly wedded couple, Aaron and Bernedette. Both from my Papa side cousins and Yes... there are purely Kadazan - kakadazans.


Baby Zander Avantang was born smilling on the 30 December 2008 and we had a full moon for this handsome baby on the 29 Jan 2009... his mommy Charmaine, was healthyly strong and i got Zander a Cloth Diaper from Miabambina.com for his full moon present.



For the first time, i am able to attend a typical culturistic kadazan tradition wedding,fully procedured and protocol..:) ( left out the ISO 1900 standard procedure only) .. The wedding took 3 days to complete, from SOGIT, church Wedding Mass to MAGAGUNG in POGUN... i remember my last cousin wedding, all of us ( the lim clan cousins) were running around like chicken to meant the fault and chores to make our cousin's wedding ( Wawa) a succesful one, however, in this Wedding ( Aaron & Benerdette) i have to put my hand together , give a loud applause to my che che ( Cindy M) on her well monitoring in organizing this mega event.



The most fascinating day of the whole chain of wedding ceremony was on the MAGAGUNG ceremony. I dont quite understand what actually the ritual and practise was about however i am pretty fascinated by the procedure of these newly wedded couple went through.

First both have to step on this stone, which was located at the main entrance of their house.

Secondly, a cross over of "Kadazan Hat" for both the newly wed, i really have no idea the meaning of this exercise however, i saw Moing ( nenek) was murmuring for the Gods blessing for this married couple. Once the couple stepped in,there were few protocol to be done, perhaps this is to more like the "tea ceremony" from the chinese culture, its is more like receiving blessing from the elderly ones.

So instead of serving tea, they served Tapai/Lihing, They served and drink , sip by sip, and bit by bit, and eventually..... they danced.... to represent the symbol of celebration for the newly wedded couple. So, celebration go on and on, with the company of rythmic gong and food... Tapai was served around...

Marriage, the pinnacle everyone's life, gives a sense of belonging and security to an individual... Deep down my heart, i wish.. this newly wedded couple, longevity, and love forever....

Congrats Aaron & Bern